In the previous articles, I talked you about the 2 first rules of Robin Dreeke’s “Code of Trust”. If you want to gain trust, there are 5 rules to applicate says the former FBI special agent and US Navy pilot.

The first one is to suspend your ego, the second one is to be non-judgmental. These 2 are the most important ones, but anyway, there are 3 more in his Code of Trust. With these 5 rules you can lead and succeed according to Dreeke in his book, edited by St Martin’s Griffin.

Validate others is the third rule of the code. Dreeke says that validating people is the greatest gift you can give them. “Validating someone else doesn’t mean approving of them, since the goal is to not judge people at all: with approval, or disapproval. Validation is far less complicated: no moral inventory is needed. It just means knowing who people are, what they’re doing, and why you think that what they’re doing is valid—not good or bad, just valid: something you might do if you were them. That’s all people need from you, or want. They can decide for themselves if they are doing something good or bad” says Robin Dreeke about the third rule.

According to him, if you want to achieve your ultimate goal, and lead others in the quest of that goal, get ready for a lot of tongue biting. When you hear “thank you,” after having validated someone, then quit. “No matter what. Bite your tongue. Whoever you’re talking to feels validated. That’s good enough. You’ll receive your reward later”.  Dreeke illustrates the “bite the tongue” theory with a great 20-million-view You Tube video “It’s not about the nail”      ( https://youtu.be/-4EDhdAHrOg ) Who has not yet experienced this kind of situation, may stand up. (Picture by Isabella Jusková on Unsplash)